The concept of “value” or “value system” in a person is highly subjective and can vary greatly from one individual to another. Many studies have shown that in relationships, people often seek out partners who complement their own personalities, share similar interests, or provide emotional support.
The most common factors that play a major role are low self-esteem, fear of being alone, or societal pressure.
Firstly it is important to understand that low-value women can be a blanket statement for many men which is a wrong way of generalizing a relationship.
If a woman is needy, shows signs of mistrust, doesn’t value relationships, is controlling, is manipulative, or is only interested in fulfilling her own needs be it money, sex, or emotional needs.
Upbringing
Often, a man finds solace in blaming women for being low-value, but it largely reflects how he views himself and his unconscious opinion that he only deserves such women.
It has to start with self-reflection on why he was not able to see the red flag before committing to such a relationship. It can be rushing into a relationship because they fear losing the newfound attention of the opposite sex.
When you dig deep into the psychology of such men or they do deep self-introspection, it is generally their childhood trauma that is surfacing in the form of life choices they are making in adulthood.
Growing up they were not valued much in their primary relationships. There can also be a possibility that they have been raised by a woman who may be abusive or did not value their opinions or needs.
Such men tend to normalize the unacceptable behavior or needs of a woman later in life.
Fallacy
Some men have preconceived notions of the kind of woman they want in their lives. These are nothing less than based on their past experiences with women (not necessarily romantic), movies, and online media they consumed growing up.
As a result, they are drawn to such relationships due to the broken and distorted image of women they have created in their heads.
“Independent Woman” trap
The feminist movement and a lot of women doing better or equally good in their professional lives have created a lot of independent women.
This has been a progressive move for women and society in general but many men make assumptions that they are not flawed.
Irrespective of gender, a person can have red flags when it comes to intimate relationships. Assuming someone is a top performer, being successful in a career is not an indication of a wholesome personality.
An independent and successful woman is not a guarantee of a person’s being respectful or not needy in a relationship.
